To Build A Home
- Stephanie
- Jun 20
- 2 min read
Cancer is the sign of love, safety, protection, and family.
If you, like me, grew up learning that love was conditional – that only certain behaviours and emotions were acceptable while the rest should not be expressed – then you learnt from an early age that your authentic expression wasn’t safe to be seen.
Where, then, can we exist in our totality? Where do we find rest and respite from the outer world, if home wasn’t a safe place for us to explore ourselves, our emotions, our very Beingness?
But of course, it didn’t seem like a problem. It was easy. We learnt how we needed to behave, what standards were acceptable, and we learnt to perform.
Until we couldn’t.
Until we reached our own limit of how much of our true self we could stuff away.
Our body responds. Our mental well-being responds. Our relationships mirror it back to us.
There isn’t a place far enough to run without that big bag of shadows trailing behind us.
Because it is us.
It is a part of us.
And in growing to be whole, it becomes necessary to take a good look inside that bag of shadows — to understand them, accept them, love them.
To offer them the safe, loving home we’ve always desired.
Unconditional love, toward ourselves — especially the parts of us we find shameful, disgusting, irksome, or annoying.
Through this radical act of self-acceptance, slowly but surely, the fragments begin to integrate.
This is our journey to wholeness.
This is our journey back home — to ourselves.
This isn’t about blaming our parents, our childhood, or society.
This is about learning what we actually need — and learning to give it to ourselves.
Learning to love ourselves, tend to ourselves, and take care of ourselves, so we can continue building our capacity for receiving, for living, for loving.
Our capacity to truly be an active participant in this world.
To feel alive and sovereign in our own lives.
For the next 22 days, I’m facilitating a free group container to do exactly this.
To nourish the orphaned parts of us.
To learn new ways to love ourselves — fiercely and tenderly.
To develop an unconditionally loving relationship with ourselves.
We begin tomorrow.
Email journey@somapsychealchemy.com to join us.
If you’ve been yearning to know yourself more deeply, to soften towards yourself, to be gentler with yourself — because you know there must be another way to grow besides pushing tirelessly — and you're seeking 1:1 guidance, here are the ways we can work together:
May the waters of Cancer season support us in moving through the deep, tender tides of emotion.
May we emerge, reborn — held, whole, and home within ourselves.
Love,
Stephanie
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